Scream and shout, or cry it all out?

When things are tough and challenging, it's so much easier to get in a rage, and scream and shout.

But how would it be, to make a mental pause, and ask, "How am I really feeling right now, beneath the anger? Can I allow myself to be with that feeling?"

And how would it be to go away to someplace quiet and have a good old cry?

How would that change you?

How would it affect these same occurrences that keep on happening?